If you will recall from one of my previous posts one of the requirements to get married at my church requires us to meet with a mentor couple a few times before our ceremony. We had our first meeting with Bill and Debbie last night. I was so nervous going in, I was afraid they were going to tell us our problems were so bad we shouldn't get married. I was shaking and having a hard time breathing, Mark had to calm me down before we rang the doorbell.
When they let us in we sat down and just talked for a few minutes and it really calmed me down. They made us a YUMMY dinner of salad, ravioli, and brownies with mixed berries on top. During dinner we just got to know them a little better and talked about us a little.
After dinner they gave us a little survey to fill out, about what we really want to talk about ranging from communication, finances, conflict/resolution, god, and sex. They said we weren't much different in what we wanted to/felt we needed to talk than different couples they have met with. And they said they have never recommend a couple not get married. WHEW! We started talking a little about communication and conflict resolution last night. Just from the few minutes we discussed it last night I can tell this is really going to be a positive for us and our relationship. I am looking forward to where this is going!
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Tuesday, March 1, 2011
Thursday, February 10, 2011
Church requirements
Mark and I are getting married at Faith Lutheran Church in Oakville, MO. My church has a long list of things you need to do in order to get married there. First if one of you isn't a member of the church you have to attend the starting point class, which basically just informs you of the practicies and beliefs of the church. It's 4 hours long our head pastor leads it and you get a free meal. I was not looking forward to this class but it actually was much more interesting than I thought it would be.
The next requirement was to attend a marriage conference, it was a 2 day long event at the church where we watched a video and then had discussion time afterwards on what was introduced in the video. It was all based on the book of the bible "The Song of Solomon" I was shocked by how much there really is to learn about love from the song of solomon book. I would recommend this study to anyone. It really teaches you a lot about conflict resolution, intamacy between you and your spouse, how to communicate, and even courtship. There were many things in this study I wish I would have known when I was younger and dating. If you ever get the chance to attend this conference I highly highly recommend it!
The last thing we have to do is meet with our mentor couple 4-5 times. This is a couple who has been married for a while and want to help young couples in the church have a long, healthy, lasting relationship. We will meet them at their house and make dinner together, relax and just talk. The main marriage care director assigns you with a mentor couple based on your needs and their background. We met our mentor couple at the conference and they are wonderful, fun, and I think we are going to get along really well!
We also have to attend at least 75% of services in the year leading up to your wedding. Basically I am very pleased with the way church is handeling this and trying to make sure the marriages they perform there last. I wasn't looking forward to any of this before but now I wouldn't give it up. I would recommend any of this to anyone looking to get married.
If any of you have questions about any of this let me know!
The next requirement was to attend a marriage conference, it was a 2 day long event at the church where we watched a video and then had discussion time afterwards on what was introduced in the video. It was all based on the book of the bible "The Song of Solomon" I was shocked by how much there really is to learn about love from the song of solomon book. I would recommend this study to anyone. It really teaches you a lot about conflict resolution, intamacy between you and your spouse, how to communicate, and even courtship. There were many things in this study I wish I would have known when I was younger and dating. If you ever get the chance to attend this conference I highly highly recommend it!
The last thing we have to do is meet with our mentor couple 4-5 times. This is a couple who has been married for a while and want to help young couples in the church have a long, healthy, lasting relationship. We will meet them at their house and make dinner together, relax and just talk. The main marriage care director assigns you with a mentor couple based on your needs and their background. We met our mentor couple at the conference and they are wonderful, fun, and I think we are going to get along really well!
We also have to attend at least 75% of services in the year leading up to your wedding. Basically I am very pleased with the way church is handeling this and trying to make sure the marriages they perform there last. I wasn't looking forward to any of this before but now I wouldn't give it up. I would recommend any of this to anyone looking to get married.
If any of you have questions about any of this let me know!
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